Modern
Day Samaritan Woman
Mothering, Mother’s Day, “Mothering Do ‘Over’s…”
So Mother’s Day has now passed and yes I’m aware
that I’m almost a week late, but that seems to be the common thread in my life
at this moment…always a few days late, a few steps behind, a few tasks moved
over to the another day…I have learnt that I really don’t have to have it all
together every single day…Some things can wait till tomorrow, because God has
the World in His Hands…I do not need to fuss…
When I was asked what I would like for Mother’s
Day, I answered in the same way that I have done for many years… “Nothing, just
love me every day, because I am a mother every day…not just on this one day”. But,
during private reflection I realized that I would really have loved a
“Mothering Do Over”.
Mothering made me the Woman I am today!!!
Of all the things I have done and experienced in
my life the most fulfilling and wonderful thing was being a mother. I would
like to think that I was a fairly good mother, but were I to have a “Do Over”.
I would spend more time simply being present in my children’s life instead of
fussing over chores and tidiness. Wanting to be the BEST MOTHER ever I thought it was necessary to do it all, every
single day and be absolutely perfect at it.
I never understood that, that very annoying “Perfect Woman” in Proverbs
31…didn’t do it all in the same season of her life, but rather progressively,
as her seasons changed. I wish I had known this sooner.
There is no way to be the perfect Mother, but a
million ways to be a good one!!!
With hindsight I remember our trips to the
library and coming back home to pour over new books and information together, and
yet the memory of whether my kitchen floor was mopped or not is illusive. I
simply do not care to remember because it’s not important anymore…Perhaps it
never really was.
I remember the heart warmth and sense of
well-being we felt, while sharing a cool drink in the afternoons, in our back
yard, when my children planted seeds and re-potted plants rather than whether
the dishes in the sink was washed or not. Again, it’s just not important
enough.
I have warm memories of long discussions with my
children regarding God and His Mercy & Grace, how we were called to live
and serve, which helped us all to grow, feel connected and left us feeling so
blessed, much more than whether the laundry was done or waiting to be done.
And so, in light of this!!!
I would really love to have a do over in order to
focus more on that which matters.
Yes! it matters whether the house is at least
clean enough to be healthy and yes we need clean clothes to wear and clean
crockery to eat with; but all these things fade in comparison to the heart
connections we have with our children during the growing up years.
Those are the only memories that matter in the
end.
Those are the thoughts which warm a Mommy’s heart when she feels the ache
of an empty nest.
Those are the memories that motivate a Mommy to
her knees to pray and pray more for her grown up children as they face their
life’s challenges as adults…navigating the unknown.
These are the things that add value to all the
accomplishments and myriad of activities a Mommy has done in her life.
The
memory of those little people who tested and stretched that Mommy to be the
really best.
So to my two wonderful children, “Thank you for making me ‘Mommy’.
Without you I would never have known the absolute joy of being a mother. I also
would never have known just how far and wide a mother’s love can
stretch…Because of you and despite my many, many failures, while I muddled
through mothering you…I proudly can say “ I am a Mother” on Mother’s Day and
claim that victory with all the other Mommy’s.
And in His wonderful mercy and Grace, God gave me
the desire of my heart…because I do get to do a “Mothering Do Over”
See my next blog to find out how and more
importantly, how I fare, with all my new wisdom and knowledge.
As a Mommy do you also want
to be the very best, have a perfect home, healthy happy kids and all your ducks
in a row and realize that sometimes it’s all just too much? Relax the Proverbs
31, didn’t do it all in her 20’s. 30’s or 40’s….She did it all during the
entire span of her lifetime, all things were accomplished in their own season.
*Hugs* till next time.
Ariéte
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